The Advantages of Being Single

The best advantages of being single are:

Utter and total freedom. You are completely free when you are single and have no one to satisfy in any way, shape or form. You can do what you want, when you want, for whatever reason you want without being expected to fulfill the “partner” role.

No compromises on what you really want. A lot of the times you compromise with your partner on things you really want to go all the way in, and they really don’t. This makes you not get everything you want in life.

Only dealing with your own sh*t. You are expected to be there for your partner 100% of the time and help them out when they need it. Yet, often you are too swamped yourself to really help them out and have too many things going on, and then they come and unload all their crap on you as well.

Never being tracked on your time. Your partner often wants you to spend as much time with them as possible, so when you tell them no, or that you want to do other things, they track that. This can be awesome for you actually doing what you said you would, but awful if you are just trying to get a quiet hour in every once in a while.

More money to spend on what you want. There is no one else to buy gifts for or surprise or go on vacation with. It is just you and you can spend your money whichever way you like!

Restful sleep. You don’t have to be quiet when you need to pee in the middle of the night, and you will not get woken up by anyone who needs to do the same. Instead you will sleep without any disruptions other than your own.

Now, don’t get me wrong, I love being in a relationship. But I had to learn two things to make the most out of it:

1. The only expectations you have are your own. There are social and relationship expectations, but you are not bound to follow them. You can or not, that is entirely up to you! I know there is a lot of pressure coming in relationships, but if you take that pressure off and act out of your own accord and by what you want to do, then you will have the best time of your life in a relationship!

2. You are still free to do what you want. Yes, you have another person in your life now, but they are not dependent on you and neither are you on them! Whether or not you are there is not going to kill them or make them fall into despair. Do what you want, live your own life, and love and give the way you want to!

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