How To Become More Decisive


To be more decisive you have to realize what your intentions are. What is it you ultimately want out of this decision?

Let me give you a short process you can follow:

1. Can I make a decision here? First of all, you have to look at whether or not you even can make a choice.

Basically, this means becoming aware of the fact that you can decide. People that are very decisive know about their ability to make choices in every situation.

2. Take responsibility. The next big step is to take responsibility for your life, your choices, and their consequences.

If you want to be decisive you have to know that you can decide whatever you want to and you are the only one that has to deal with it.

3. What is your goal? In any situation ask yourself what you want out of this.

Your choices are going to be vastly different if you chose to hang out with friends to have fun or to strengthen your relationship with them.

Keep your goal in mind. Always.

4. What are your options? Remind yourself as often as you can of all the choices you have.

You always have plenty more options than you think you do, it is all about finding them. The more options you have the easier it is going to be to chose the right one.

5. Go with the simplest choice. Simple, in this case, means the choice that will bring you to your goal on the most direct route possible.

This means, for example, if you want to make new friends the simplest way is to go out and meet more people.

The simplest choice is not the easiest, nor the most fun all the time, but it is the most effective, and that is what decisive people will chose.

6. Make the choice work for you, do not find a choice that works for you. In line with the previous point, if you decide on something that is not easy to do then find a way to make it work nonetheless instead of choosing something that is clearly not as good, just so it is easier to do.

Do not find a choice that works for you, because this will not get you outside your comfort zone and you will have to make a lot more choices on other factors that shouldn’t even concern you.

Find the simplest choice and make it work for you instead. This will train you to:

1.See that you can chose whatever you want as you can make any choice work for you.
2.Become more confident in your ability to figure things out.
3.Decide much faster because you aren’t concerned about the “how”.

7. Never take more than 2 hours to make any choice, no matter how big it is. If it is something REALLY big then you are allowed to research it for two hours and then make the best choice.

The fact is that the longer you wait the more you will psyche yourself out of doing what is hard, which is what you really want 90% of the time.

Make the choice you know you want to make. Most decisions only take a minute to make, but if you take longer than 2 hours you are trying to either find a reason to do it even if you do not want to, or an excuse not to even if you know it is the right choice.

This is the process you need to practice and get ingrained in your mind to make it as effective as possible.

That being said, there are a few more things you should watch out for when making decisions:

  • Never worry about the how. When making a choice most people worry about “how” they can possibly do it, and when nothing comes to mind they chose something that is less optimal. When you look at the leaders of the world you will find that they do not care about the how. They see Point A, Point B, and then will act to get from one point to the other in the most direct way.
  • Know what you are willing to sacrifice for your choice. Whether it is time, money or even a relationship with a friend, you must know how important the goal is before you make a decision. If you do that you will know exactly what is worth sacrificing for it and what isn’t. Otherwise you will only sacrifice what is easy to sacrifice not what is necessary to sacrifice.
  • Find a way, do not find an excuse. You can find either with any choice you make. Simply getting up in the morning has a thousand different ways and excuses. If you want it, you will find a way. If you don’t, you will find an excuse.
Practice makes perfect, just like in everything else. Becoming more decisive is no exception. You need to trust in your own power to make the right choice and to see it through, even if it gets tough.

The most important thing is that you stick with the choices you make and deal with the consequences.

It is your choice so you must deal with the consequences, whether good or bad. Do not cheap out on the choices you made when they go sour. Stick with your choice and take responsibility for it.

You will not always make the right choice, but if you cheap out on the wrong choices you will never appreciate the right ones. Stick with the choices you make, take responsibility, take life into your own hands and make it what you want by becoming more decisive and certain about everything you chose to do.

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