Successfully Unhappy


Today successful are those people that have CV full with important qualifications while they have empty lives. Why in this modern time there is search for meaning in the things that you can touch, eat, wear or show off to the others. What is left inside of us when we undress everything we have on us? How much we are worthy when we take off everything that’s expensive? How long we would be fed up when we would stop feeding up with our own picture in somebody else's eyes.

Today the employer has to be the translator to your life, because just from his mouth „You passed in the next round“ says that you are worth something. Only when you hear from your future boss „You’re hired“ it’s clear that there is hope that you’ll be successful. Only when you get from your bank confirmation for approved loan with lifelong repayment, then you believe that you did something in your life because it’s written down even. Only when you are telling everyone that you live relaxed but inside yourself you sense constant dread because of all the luxurious cars parked on public parking lot, you feel like you’re successful. Only when you’re that much important that you don’t have to introduce yourself, and with that you loose sense of the importance of people around you – then you feel officially successful. Then you feed that success with business meetings, you relax on Fridays, travel to exotic destinations, and when you’re left alone with that palpable, material and spendable you comfort yourself with lies.

I would play by different rules. My qualifications say that I am a human being, from schools I have life school, I learn from mistakes and I go on exams everyday. I fail but I get up. I volunteer constantly. Right now I’m working on lifelong project called Being better than yesterday. I have ambition to always fight against my fears. About overtime working, my opinions is really positive, if it is about that few minutes of love that are causing me to postpone my sleeping. About overtime working for your company, I think it’s complete bullshit. I show my qualifications specifically with actions, not with certificates or diplomas. And not to you.

Sometimes there is vibe that even though you’re thoughtful human being with emotions you have to prove your right of existence to someone. While defending yourself, evidences such as honest, good friend, compassionate, full with understanding, tolerant, loyal are not acceptable. That features are excluded from the evidence list because by the rules of CV writing they are not that important.

For me success isn’t to find everything that you’ve been looking for, but not losing hope that what you are looking for will come even though you go from one failure to another. Success isn’t to be on the top where you can request for respect but to earn it while you are still on the ground. It’s not success when in the others eyes you seem successful but when you look in the eyes in the mirror and you spot the true happiness. A tie and a medal can envelop everyone's neck, but happiness hugs around neck just those who see that just compassion, tameness and good deeds can save the world.

Success brings money, respect and material safety. It’s measurable but also perishable with expire date. Maybe people do see your face, but your happiness is the one that you see and the thing you go to sleep with. It brings peace, self respect and safety with the people you are surrounded with. It doesn’t dress up or park, you won’t see it for sale in the shop windows. It’s not popular because at first sight it’s not visible to the others. But even if it’s in you, it’s not just yours. Those who have it know that happiness multiplies with sharing, while when sharing success you just loose. That’s why successful people that don’t get it are not happy, because at the end in that fading galore they can’t even be.

16 comments:

  1. Wow, nice article,
    Nowadays everyone is running behind money and somewhere they gets detached form everything else.

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  2. Success is what you have it but others couldn't understand it. It is you and yourself could determine how successful you are.

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  3. For me success isn’t to find everything that you’ve been looking for, but not losing hope that what you are looking for will come even though you go from one failure to another.------ exactly my point. i love this post! i could really much relate with it as I do want to share with people about this same belief. Thanks for sharing your thoughts about this. It really made me happy to see more people with this mindset. :)

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  4. People have different definition of success. Sometimes it's all about money, achievements and others but I guess, it's important to balance that success with a good and happy life.

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  5. For me, working overtime is just something that proves how really inefficient you are in work. Though I have something different in mind when we say Success, I still defined success as someone who has a good standing in society and at the same time manages his family, social life well and happy living his life.

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  6. It is unfortunate that society still looks at your college and your grades when judging you. There are so many things about the person himself that are ultimately more important, but are missed because of an unimpressive CV. That is a pity.

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  7. Running after money in the expense of happiness is a sad situation. More so if you are sacrificing other people for the sake of it.

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  8. Happiness in a condition and you define the rules for happiness for yourself. Some people find happiness in position/ranks/titles and some find it in little things. The reason why I named my blog 'The Ordinary Girl' is because I find happiness in ordinary not even in extra ordinary... But, world is full of all kinds of people. we need to embrace and respect diversity of thoughts!

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