Stop Being Average


Here is what average people do: They wake up at 10am, read some news, eat, watch Game of Thrones for 2 hours, eat more junk food, lay on the sofa and stare at their phones for three hours, and then probably watch more TV and sleep. Of course, there will be variations based on one’s social status and geographical locations - I’m largely generalizing, but this is what most average people do on weekends.

They don’t achieve much. They don’t have goals or plans, and they live everyday without much thought.

This is what I lived like for years.

Before highschool, all I wanted to do was get the girl I liked to notice me, or hang with all my friends and go out everyday. I wanted to get in a good highschool but I wasn’t actually willing to put in any effort. I didn’t actually work hard for anything.

You see the trend? I was comfortable.

And that’s where I got it wrong. I indulged in pleasure, not happiness. I let myself do whatever I wanted in the moment, without actually putting myself under pressure for a better future.

In school, I binge watched Modern Family instead of studying for my exam. In highschool, I ate chocolate and scrolled my Instagram for forty minutes instead of getting a head start on my project.

Mother of God, what was I doing?

If you want to be above average, you need get used to being uncomfortable. You need to get used to pain, to discomfort, to prolonged hours of just sitting there and forcing yourself to get through one more page of that fucking essay, one more lesson on code academy.

And in the age of distractions, it’s even harder. Messages, notifications, the allure ofmultiple social media accounts you gotta keep up to, piled with schoolwork and activities you gotta attend - it’s horror.

But those aren’t real excuses. Everyone goes through them. At the end of the day when you evaluate yourself, whether that’s when you graduate or when you die, you’ll see that nothing is excusable.

For me, my excuse for not working hard in high school was that “my mom forced me too much.” My mom’s excuse was that her mom "turned the TV on too loud so [she] couldn’t focus.”

Bull fucking shit.

You can lie to others but stop lying to yourself. The rest of this break, I want to get ahead on building traction for my blog as much as possible, and figure out what I want to do in the tech industry in the future.

If I say I “didn’t have enough time”, or “I was too tired”, then I’m lying to myself. I’m in Beijing for two and a half weeks and I have nothing to do.

So there. Fuck it. Fuck all the lies you keep telling yourself. If you want to be above average, then you have to be willing to drip blood and sweat for whatever you want to achieve - otherwise, you’ll just be left behind. A mere speck waiting to be extinguished by the trailing dust of the above-average.

36 comments:

  1. My husband and I refer to "average" people, settlers. I love this post, it is so spot on!

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  2. Comfort and success never went hand in hand, you have to work hard for what you want and never let being uncomfortable push you back. I'm glad you realized that before you're too old to start over. We all have to "up" our game if we want something different to happen in our lives.

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  3. As a Life Coach, this is probably the most essential lesson most of my clients have needed to learn. Taking responsibility is really what it is all about. Good for you for learning it young.

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  4. Yes, you can lie to others, but you cannot lie to yourself. What is "success" worth if you are never comfortable though?

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    1. It's not like you going to be uncomfortable the whole time, but doing something that you never done before or something that you're scared of.

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  5. These are some good points. Once you're in a comfortable routine it's super easy to forget about your goals and ambitions.

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  6. When you are feeling comfortable you know that you are doing something wrong, its good to live life on the wild side!

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  7. I used to always strive for more but in the recent years I've settled down a bit and become more average. Seems I'm going the opposite direction.

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  8. This is a great read... Im currently training myself to wake up earlier again and it is so hard when I would like to do nothing more than sleep a little longer. But I know if I don't wake up before the kids then I feel rushed all morning which leaves me feeling rushed all day.

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  9. This line "If you want to be above average, then you have to be willing to drip blood and sweat for whatever you want to achieve" is just perfect to kick someone's ass and be motivated.

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  10. great read, we got to work deeper and harder than we all do currently to live up to the expectations we want. no one should be average.

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  11. I had the same problem as a teen and still have moments as an adult. You give great advice in that you have to get out of the comfort zone to be successful (and less miserable). Having a daily routine helps too.

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  12. I think that when you are a teen you have a different vision then when you are an adult. Yeah, when you are a teen you don't have responsibilities and you can do whatever you want. But as an adult, to spend the weekends waking up at 10 and just do nothing is probably a dream, haha.

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    1. Even though I'm teen I'm really trying to be ready for adulthood. :D

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  13. This is so true! we are so easily that talking talking talking but that doesn't lead us anywhere but average. To achive something you need to work for it and make sacrifices. I know that there are people who are totally happy being average and not willing to take risks in life.

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  14. Great post. I should read this a few times every day

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  15. I believe that one should have willingness to succeed and desire to work hard for achieving any goals in their lives!

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  16. Well this has given me a real kick up the butt! Social media definitely makes it a lot harder to concentrate on things which is why everyone should detox now and then!

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  17. I'm a teenager too and this is one of th greatest articles I've ever seen. Too often we get 'comfortabke' and but we rarely do things that produce true happiness

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  18. After my father died, I learned how to appreciate more of life. I found out that life is short and we should not be looking at it for granted. I also do not settle on things no matter how I am already comfortable on it. For example, I have my full time job which gives me decent amount of money monthly, but it does not mean I will just be contented on it. At present, I am studying more to acquire my doctorate degree. I would like to go the distance. I would like to achieve more. I believe that the only limit that we get in this world are the limits we give to ourselves. By the way, great post! :)

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